The Mannerly Author
by Mythdefied
October, 2005


When do you all not leave feedback? I'm usually a huge fan of FB, shaking my feedback pompoms and chanting the usual phrase, "Leave it because the author deserves it and you know you'd want them to do the same for you." Kind of the Golden Rule of fanfic. But lately I'm finding that there are more and more times when I'm just not leaving FB, even when I really like the story.

It's not about authors who demand FB, because I never left any for that type, it's when I read a good story and then see page after page of FB, none of which has the author ever replied to. It used to be that I'd leave FB anyway, but I just got tired of saying something long and thoughtful and getting nothing but silence in return. So now, even with authors I like, if I see that they've got dozens of comments and have never responded after days or weeks, I just move right along and never say a word.

I think that readers should leave FB, but I also feel that authors have an obligation to at least say a simple "thanks" for it. It's basic manners, thanking someone when you receive something, and I find it a little offensive when that's ignored. It's like the authors feel they have a "right" to the FB, like they're owed it somehow and don't have to thank anyone for what was theirs by rights. Now, maybe these authors don't actually feel this way, but that's how it looks to me when I see a fic with over a hundred FBs and zilch in the way of thanks from the author.

Yes, I understand that an author might not have the time to reply right away to that much FB, but after days or more than a week has passed? At that point I think most of them are looking for an excuse not to answer the FB. Kind of an, "Oh, it's been so long; no one will remember they left FB and even if they do, they really don't expect me to acknowledge something that old, do they? Nah." And if that's the case, then I don't feel like throwing my own FB into the bottomless void of the author's indifference.

The other sort of author that annoys me is the one who posts one big thank you note (to the lists or LJ) saying something along the lines of, "I don't have time/am too overwhelmed to reply to all the FB, so a big thank you to everyone who said something nice!" Well, if you have time to work on your next fic or make your next post, then I guess you do have the time to reply to the FB. What you really meant was that you didn't want to take the time. Okay, no problem. Next time you post a fic, I won't make any demands on your precious time with pesky FB.

These are things I notice happening in the very big fandoms. Back in the day when Herc-Xena was a huge fandom, this kind of thing happened on the lists. In BtVS-Angel, it crossed over from the lists and became a problem on LJ. Now SG:A seems to be having a plague of it. It makes me upset/sad because authors who I really like are doing it and that alienates me from them, from wanting to read their fic.

It's something that's been bothering for a while and I don't know if it seems like a petty, nitpicky thing to anyone or everyone else, but it just...gets under my skin. I love my fandoms, but lack of manners in the fandoms has a tendency to make want to rant.

ETA: (And I just knew there would be an ETA on this one.) I know there are authors who reply privately; I did the same thing on the lists myself. Thing is, at least in my experience, the authors who do that have a reputation for doing it, so you know you're not just sending FB into empty space. You know you'll hear something from them one way or another, even if it is just a "thanks" accompanied by a little smiley emoticon.

When I was heavily into the lists, though, and now here on LJ, I've just started developing little lists of people who aren't that way, who just simply never reply. And what sucks is that some of them weren't always like that. They'd send some sort of acknowledgment some way.


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